IS THERE A DISTINCTION BETWEEN RESPECT & HONOR?
(Message by Tanny Keng)
1. Is there a distinction between Respect and Honor?
a) When families think about honor, they often restrict their thinking to respectful behavior, being polite, courteous, and having good manners. This is a rather narrow understanding and is only a small portion of what honor actually is.
b) Respectful behavior, although a subset of honor, is incomplete in and of itself. A girl learned manners at an early age. "What a nice girl," people would say. She learned acceptable behavior but as she grew older she rebelled against the rules, finding them empty and overly restrictive. Teaching respect is not enough.
c) You see, respect is an outward response. For instance we respect police officers because of their authoritative position as well as respecting our elders. When only respect is emphasized in the family environment, it will tend to lead to false intimacy, conformity and possibly distant relationships.
d) Honor means worth and value. It’s one thing to respect or fear God because of His ultimate power and greatness but quite another to honor (value) Him for the same qualities. We give God, glory and honor and praise because we value Him.
i) Respect – teaches manners and proper behavior in the presence of others.
ii) Honor – attaches worth to that person as an individual.
iii) Respect – acknowledges a person’s position.
iv)Honor – attaches worth to that person as an individual.
v) Respect – can quite often become a technique to make a family look good on the outside.
vi) Honor – builds the bonds that are hidden which will provide strength and lasting unity.
f) Honor helps address meanness in relationships. Honor does a job thoroughly and with a good attitude. Honor looks for what needs to be done before being asked. All children (and adults) need to learn honor. Teaching it makes a big difference in family life.
g) Honor actually changes how families interact. Emotions are handled differently, and the family therefore becomes a place where people value each other and appreciate their strengths. When weakness is shown, the family will offer encouragement instead of teasing and ridicule.
h) Although we're making a contrast between respect and honor, don't assume that honor is good and respect is bad. Both have their place. When children are young, they learn respectful behavior, but as they grow older, they can develop a heart response of honor as well. It's good to teach respectful behavior but it's important that you not stop there. Honor adds a deeper dimension to relationships.
i) Both honor and respect have their place in the family. When the children are young and into young adulthood, respect is taught, but as they grow older they will develop a heart response of honor as well.
The End ...
1. Is there a distinction between Respect and Honor?a) When families think about honor, they often restrict their thinking to respectful behavior, being polite, courteous, and having good manners. This is a rather narrow understanding and is only a small portion of what honor actually is.
b) Respectful behavior, although a subset of honor, is incomplete in and of itself. A girl learned manners at an early age. "What a nice girl," people would say. She learned acceptable behavior but as she grew older she rebelled against the rules, finding them empty and overly restrictive. Teaching respect is not enough.
c) You see, respect is an outward response. For instance we respect police officers because of their authoritative position as well as respecting our elders. When only respect is emphasized in the family environment, it will tend to lead to false intimacy, conformity and possibly distant relationships.
d) Honor means worth and value. It’s one thing to respect or fear God because of His ultimate power and greatness but quite another to honor (value) Him for the same qualities. We give God, glory and honor and praise because we value Him.
i) Respect – teaches manners and proper behavior in the presence of others.
ii) Honor – attaches worth to that person as an individual.
iii) Respect – acknowledges a person’s position.
iv)Honor – attaches worth to that person as an individual.
v) Respect – can quite often become a technique to make a family look good on the outside.
vi) Honor – builds the bonds that are hidden which will provide strength and lasting unity.
e) Honor is different. It comes when you recognize a person's worth or value. Respect focuses on behavior, doing the appropriate thing, whereas honor comes from the heart. Respect acknowledges a person's position, while honor attaches worth to that person. Respect teaches manners and proper behavior in the presence of others. Honor teaches something deeper, an appreciation of that person. Respect can become an outward technique to make a family look good to others, but honor builds
the hidden bonds that provide great strength and long-lasting unity.
It's one thing to obey the crossing guard out of respect for his
position. It's yet another to show honor to him because you know him as a
friend.
f) Honor helps address meanness in relationships. Honor does a job thoroughly and with a good attitude. Honor looks for what needs to be done before being asked. All children (and adults) need to learn honor. Teaching it makes a big difference in family life.
g) Honor actually changes how families interact. Emotions are handled differently, and the family therefore becomes a place where people value each other and appreciate their strengths. When weakness is shown, the family will offer encouragement instead of teasing and ridicule.
h) Although we're making a contrast between respect and honor, don't assume that honor is good and respect is bad. Both have their place. When children are young, they learn respectful behavior, but as they grow older, they can develop a heart response of honor as well. It's good to teach respectful behavior but it's important that you not stop there. Honor adds a deeper dimension to relationships.
i) Both honor and respect have their place in the family. When the children are young and into young adulthood, respect is taught, but as they grow older they will develop a heart response of honor as well.
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